The Tao of Friendship

” Avoid those who believe they are stronger than you, because they are actually concealing their own fragility.

Stay close to those who are not afraid to be vulnerable, because they have confidence in themselves and know that, at some point in our lives, we all stumble; they do not interpret this as a sign of weakness, but of humanity.

Avoid those who seek friends in order to maintain a certain social status or to open doors they would not otherwise be able to approach.

Stay close to those who are interested in opening only one important door: the door to your heart. They will never invade your soul without your consent or shoot a deadly arrow through that open door.

Friendship is like a river; it flows around rocks, adapts itself to valleys and mountains, occasionally turns into a pool until the hollow in the ground is full and it can continue on its way.
Just as the river never forgets that its goal is the sea, so friendship never forgets that its only reason for existing is to love other people.”

– Paulo Coelho ( Manuscript found in Accra)

is it dusk or dawn?

If pain must come, may it come quickly. Because I have a life to live, and I need to live it in the best way possible. If he has to make a choice, may he make it now. Then I will either wait for him or forget him.

Paulo Coelho, By the River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept

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Listen: write hard & simple. Be lousy,incoherent,messy- make it a wad of digital chicken scratch if you will. But write, and don’t worry about how it seems. Let it just be,and it will.


 

º You must write for yourself, above all. That is your only hope of creating something beautiful.
― Gustave Flaubert

º Follow your inner moonlight; don’t hide the madness.
― Allen Ginsberg

º To go wrong in one’s own way is better then to go right in someone else’s.
― Fyodor Dostoyevsky

º Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways.
― Sigmund Freud

º No man has the right to dictate what other men should perceive, create or produce, but all should be encouraged to reveal themselves, their perceptions and emotions, and to build confidence in the creative spirit.
― Ansel Adams

º If critics say your work stinks it’s because they want it to stink and they can make it stink by scaring you into conformity with their comfortable little standards. Standards so low that they can no longer be considered “dangerous” but set in place in their compartmental understandings.
― Jack Kerouac

º Insist on yourself; never imitate. Your own gift you can offer with the cumulative force of a whole life’s cultivation, but of the adopted talent of another, you have only an extemporaneous, half possession.
― Ralph Waldo Emerson

º I have no desires, save the desire to express myself in defiance of all the world’s muteness.
― Vladimir Nabokov

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“But above all, in order to be, never try to seem.”

26 inspiring quotes on vulnerability & authenticity


 

1.Take any emotion—love for a woman, or grief for a loved one, or what I’m going through, fear and pain from a deadly illness. If you hold back on the emotions—if you don’t allow yourself to go all the way through them—you can never get to being detached, you’re too busy being afraid. You’re afraid of the pain, you’re afraid of the grief. You’re afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails. “But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your head even, you experience them fully and completely. You know what pain is. You know what love is. You know what grief is. And only then can you say, ‘All right. I have experienced that emotion. I recognize that emotion. Now I need to detach from that emotion for a moment’.
— Mitch Albom

 

2.The best people possess a feeling for beauty, the courage to take risks, the discipline to tell the truth, the capacity for sacrifice. Ironically, their virtues make them vulnerable; they are often wounded, sometimes destroyed.”
— Ernest Hemingway

3.To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.”
— C.S. Lewis

4.Those who are willing to be vulnerable move among mysteries.”
— Theodore Roethke

5.What happens when people open their hearts?”… “They get better.”
Haruki Murakami 

6.The strongest love is the love that can demonstrate its fragility.
— Paulo Coelho

7.Out of your vulnerabilities will come your strength.
— Sigmund Freud

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