فزت و رب الكعبة

Deconstructing and dismantling the system ain’t your biznez. Search for your blocks to the truth, ground yourself in love in midst of chaos, and manifest what’s in your heart not your mind. Leave it to Allaah to erase these institutions and systems you think are so powerful. They aren’t. They just seem so because of the weakness in us. We done lost our ways and became alienated from the pain that would call us to change and have compassion. So the world will be messed up for as long as people aren’t getting the lesson. Once the lesson is understood and integrated by even a handful of people, that’ll mark the tipping point. Empaths have the precocious knack to be the wayshowers and builders of new paradigms way before the old has even crumbled.

The point is in the pain, and it’s not for anyone to try to bypass the pain by punishing those who were the means for it. That is giving power to one who doesn’t have that kind of power and though it may soothe the ego to clapback or take them down, it only does further damage to the afflicted one.

You sidestepped your turf by living a life that doesn’t resonate with you and then you’re surprised when you end up in the wrong neighbourhood? You don’t choose nor have control over who you come across or what happens in the path you tread. But you absolutely have control over the path you take. We’re currently gentrifying the neighbourhoods of evil. You may strong-arm a politician here or influence a bill there, but you’re still coming home to the same electromagnetic field emitting from your heart. Even if your intention is to clean out the gutter, your focus is still in the gutter.

وَأَوْرَثْنَا الْقَوْمَ الَّذِينَ كَانُوا يُسْتَضْعَفُونَ مَشَارِقَ الْأَرْضِ وَمَغَارِبَهَا الَّتِي بَارَكْنَا فِيهَا وَتَمَّتْ كَلِمَتُ رَبِّكَ الْحُسْنَىٰ عَلَىٰ بَنِي إِسْرَائِيلَ بِمَا صَبَرُوا وَدَمَّرْنَا مَا كَانَ يَصْنَعُ فِرْعَوْنُ وَقَوْمُهُ وَمَا كَانُوا يَعْرِشُونَ

And We made the people who were considered weak to inherit the eastern parts of the land and the western parts thereof which We have blessed. And the fair Word of your Lord was fulfilled for the Children of Israel, because of their endurance. And We destroyed completely all the great works and buildings which Fir’aun (Pharaoh) and his people erected.

(Al-A’raf 7:137)

Logic needs to be more emotional 

Girls, we don’t NEED men. Let’s not love from a place of lack and need. Let’s GIVE love, and if we can’t because we don’t know how, then we need to learn to give it to ourselves first! It does no one any good to suppress ourselves and expect to be saved. We are individuals and human beings first and foremost. Don’t let society dictate your path in life.  The rules were made to keep you stuck, not make you grow.
All we need is Allaah…
Hajar was left in the middle of the desert with her newborn baby, by her husband, Ibraahiim khaleelullaah. And yet she not only survived but she thrived and was the base of a whole new society!
Maryam was getting fed from unknown sources, to the astonishment of her patron, Zakariya calayhissalaam. Likewise, she was giving birth ON HER OWN. And she received intuition calming her, giving her strength to shake a date palm. 
Khadija was not only financially rich but emotionally generous. Her husband, the beloved prophet sallAllaahu calayhi wasallam found support and unconditional acceptance when he felt down and vulnerable. If she didn’t have her own strength, she wouldn’t possibly be able to support him like that.
It was the quick thinking and intuitiveness that allowed Musa calayhissalaams mother to save him by throwing him in the river. 
The women in Madyan who Musa encountered, were supporting their father. 

Our strength is our intuition and emotional intelligence. Let’s not squander that, or belittle it. The world is in turmoils because of humans disconnection with their inner selves and emotions. 
Emotions are the most powerful force to be reckoned with. And their suppression are an act of patriarchal violence. 

Sink, don’t swim

The only time Muslim men seem supportive and accepting of Muslim women is when we get lauded and celebrated in the West for our achievements. E.g. Ibtihaaj Mohamed, Malala Yousufzai, all other Muslim women with impressive track record. L  I don’t know, but it seems like many men like to bask in the shadow of our hijaab which is the only distinguishable indicator of a Muslim. 

So reppin Islaam lies on our shoulders, as does the responsibility to hold Muslim men’s hands – figuratively of course lol- in walking a straight path by hiding ourselves, so as to eliminate ‘temptations’. 
Let me give you an example: When a man is told of his Islaamic obligations and duties, the motivation and reason given are tied to obeying Allaah. 
But when a woman is told of her Islaamic obligations and duties, the motivation and reason are usually tied to a man. 

Case in point: Wear hijaab to protect yourself from men. Don’t go out as much to keep yourself chaste from men. 

And this is especially pronounced when married women are addressed; reminders to obey the husband and bend over backwards pleasing him is spoken of void of a spiritual context and agency. She’s not told : ‘do this because Allaah told you and He’s testing your obedience to Him by making you yield to your husband.’ 
No no. Patriarchy is presented as an intermediary between the woman and her Lord. The man and Allaah are put on equal footing, and this is done so subtly it’s scary. 
Just listen to any Somali lecture geared towards women and you’ll see that the only topics broached are to do with marriage, hijaab, child rearing and backbiting. As if that’s all women are about; why not encourage their autonomy by mentioning the illustrious female Islaamic scholars throughout Islaamic history? Why not empower them instead of telling them what NOT to do, what NOT to be?
Women have contributed a hefty amount to the Islaamic sciences, and in fact they were more upright in it. Out of the thousands of female muxaddithaat ( hadeeth scholars/transmitters) not ONE was a fabricator. 
Many commanded large audiences of male students. They would teach and correct their husbands on narrations and fataawa, and the men wouldn’t get defensive or insecure. Why? Because they were humble and keen on purifying their own Islaamic knowledge from errors and misunderstandings. 
When ego overshadowed the Muslims, when appearances and lipservice to knowledge became a thing, Muslim men went down and took women with them by marginalizing and tone-policing them. 

The last major female scholar lived in the 1800s. That’s during the era of my grandmother’s grandmother. 
Most women keep quiet out of fear. Muslim women, Somali women. That’s why we don’t have too many Somali thinkers and writers and critics who are women. Not because they don’t exist, but because the level of harassment and vitriol they receive from men makes it a steep price to pay.
Men have fallen victims to their egos and they are too arrogant to ask for a hand. So they cut off our hands, in case we try to help them up. And then when confronted about this they say ‘it’s xaraam for man to touch the hand of a woman, so it’s xaraam for me to try to get up. I’m trying to be patient with the fitnah of this ground that made me fall. The ground is so uneven, the sun is so blinding, the women are so seductive – no wonder why I fell. ‘

Rediscovering Ramadaan#5

When misogyny rears one of its many heads

Ya hear that? The sound that went ‘pop’ in your head, the neurons coming to a screeching halt, your breath held in a nanosecond longer when you read ‘misogyny’?

I’m not going to bash anyone. Don’t worry.

I bash everyone 😠😈

Just kidding 😝

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