I’m rather cagey

I’ve noticed the incessant urge people have to label me, to label anyone really. It’s as if the words they assign me would contain me and tame me, perhaps reduce their fear of the unknown.



-the eccentric one

Every label has some hue to it. I’m painted with it even before an introduction and for a long while I felt trapped by these brands. I felt the need to be placed in the ‘right’ category. Appease,please,compromise. I bent over backwards to squeeze myself into a fanciful label.

Two years ago I underwent an extensive Maskectomy. Now for the scientifically challenged, maskectomy is the removal of one’s mask which was invented by yours truly 🙂 . Instead of trying to pigeon-hole myself, I embraced all the different sides of me – the weird,the weirder, the good.


That’s when I realized – the labels that people assign me have nothing to do with me, and everything to do with them. Those who peer behind their self-imposed labels,boxes and masks . The labelling is for their convenience, because they can’t be without a label and thus can’t see without one. It threatens their very existence.

Now, my staunch rebellion scares them. When they realize I’m a label-less one, they scurry off to their hiding places. Which I’m cool with ,by the way. Because I like staying out after midnight. I like the blanket of darkness that covers me as I lay down in the grass, stargazing. I don’t mind the grass stains on my black jilbaab , and my loyal Vans are made for mud.If you want to hang, I’m cool with that too. But please, remain quiet and listen intently. Haven’t you been told that it’s rude to talk while the stars are telling their stories?




Learn How to Live: Lesson 4

How to Be Yourself 101

An introductory course on  living


“A man that flies from his fear may find that he has only taken a short cut to meet it.” – J.R.R. Tolkien

The missing pieces of your heart are found on the other side of your deep-seated fears. No matter how long you spend seeking tranquillity in comfort zones, there’s no compromising this truth. Accept this.


Learn How to Live: Lesson 3

How to Be Yourself 101

An introductory course on  living


To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.” Oscar Wilde

The grim reality of life is that from the moment of birth, we embarked on a journey towards the tomb. You did not choose to live and you don’t choose to die, but the choices in between is what defines you as an individual. You could choose to ignore this fact and conform to unconscientious basic survival by spending your life building someone else’s empire to pay your rent. Or you could actually just  live. Live as if you are the only inhabitant of this world, because you are. You are the only inhabitant of your world.


Learn How to Live: Lesson 2

How to Be Yourself 101

An introductory course on  living


Because you are positively affected by praise, you are also negatively affected by criticism. The moment you let someone else’s actions dictate your emotional state, they become your master and you, their unwitting slave.



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