It is that deep

Despite all attempts at denial and obfuscation there is an unconscious factor, a black sun, which is responsible for the surprisingly common phenomenon of masculine split-mindedness, when the right hand mustn’t know what the left is doing. This split in the masculine psyche and the regular darkening of the moon in woman together explain the remarkable fact that the woman is accused of all the darkness in a man, while he himself basks in the thought that he is a veritable fount of vitality and illumination for the females in his environment. Actually he would be better advised to shroud the brilliance of his mind in the profoundest doubt. It is not difficult for this type of mind (which besides other things is a great trickster like Mercurius) to admit a host of sins in the most convincing way, and even to combine it with a spurious feeling of ethical surperiority without in the least approximating to a genuine insight. This can never be achieved without the participation of feeling; but the intellect admits feeling only when it is convenient. The novilunium of woman is a source of countless disappointments for man which easily turns to bitterness, though they could equally well be a source of wisdom if they were understood. Naturally this is possible only if he is prepared to acknowledge his black sun, that is, his Shadow.

– C. G. Jung, Mysterium Coniunctionis

Nightowl

Everyone who becomes conscious of even a fraction of his unconscious gets outside his own time and social stratum into a kind of solitude.

– C. G. Jung, Mysterium Coniunctionis: An Inquiry into the Separation and Synthesis of Psychic Opposites in Alchemy

A love nest

I’m of the view that a relationship should be the fruits of a union, not the roots to settle on. Each party should have the relationship rooted in their hearts, sacrificing for a value shared and preferring the higher good of the union to one’s self.

Then and only then will the outcome become fruitful and even in wintry times or drought, the union is held together by the roots nestled in the hearts of the lovers. A romantic union can’t survive without the inner stability of both individuals.

A relationship can’t go deeper than you have within yourself and it can’t provide what is lacking in you. It only reflects and amplifies what’s within you, for good or bad. It’s intense and exposes many whose dedication to the transpersonal is shallow. Although the coming together of two individuals is interpersonal, the third energy which is the union is always transpersonal. That is, something bestowed by the divine.

And that’s why a sacred relationship is a marriage. That’s the meaning of a marriage ; the carrier of the transpersonal.

“There is a third kind of relationship, the only lasting one, in which it is as though there were an invisible telegraph wire between two human beings. He said, “I call it, to myself, the Golden Thread.

This may be masked by other forms of a relationship. And other forms may be present without any such thread in them.

It is only when the veil of maya, of illusion, is rent for us that we can begin to recognize the Golden Thread.

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And just as it is impossible to individuate without relatedness, so it is impossible to have real relationships without individuation.

For otherwise illusion comes in continually, and you don’t know where you are.”

– C. G. Jung, C. G. Jung Speaking : Interviews and Encounters

Illusions cause separation from truth. Union only happens through clarity.

Deluded

The people who fancy they are sure of themselves are the ones who are truly unsure. Our whole life is unsure, so a feeling of unsureness is much nearer to the truth than the illusion and bluff of sureness. In the long run it is the better adapted man who triumphs, not the wrongly self-confident, who is at the mercy of dangers from without and within.

C. G. Jung, The Symbolic Life

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