Here, a flower.

I’ve decided to devote my life to planting love wherever I go.

And I hope that the seeds I plant in people, in words, in hugs, in smiles
would grow into mighty trees that provide them shade from the scorching injustices of this world.

And I, well, I hope that with my toil, the Lord sends torrent of rain down on me to quench my thirst, to wash away the dirt from my hands, to soothe my heart that pines for the love it gives others.

{إِنْ أَحْسَنتُمْ أَحْسَنتُمْ لِأَنفُسِكُمْ وَإِنْ أَسَأْتُمْ فَلَهَا}

سورة الإسراء

Promise Yourself…

 

…to be so strong that nothing
can disturb your peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness, and prosperity
to every person you meet.

To make all your friends feel
that there is something in them
To look at the sunny side of everything
and make your optimism come true.

To think only the best, to work only for the best,
and to expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others
as you are about your own.

To forget the mistakes of the past
and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful countenance at all times
and give every living creature you meet a smile.

To give so much time to the improvement of yourself
that you have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear,
and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world,
not in loud words but great deeds.
To live in faith that the whole world is on your side
so long as you are true to the best that is in you.

Christian D. Larson

Learn to love yourself in 3 practical ways

This article came at just the right time for me. I’ve been struggling with the idea of self-acceptance and self-love as a ‘recovering’ codependent. It really resonated with me.
Deborah Ward, the author,is a Highly Sensitive Person who writes about the delicate life HSPs lead.

So much self-help advice we read suggests that we learn to love ourselves. It’s good advice, but how exactly do we do it? We often believe we do love ourselves and yet our actions and reactions, and our lives, suggest otherwise. Loving yourself is essential to your own personal growth, tothe fulfilment of your dreams and to developing healthy, happy relationships with others. Instead of trying to talk yourself into self-love, foster some compassion for yourself and learn to love yourself with these three practical steps:1. Care as much about yourself as you do for others. It sounds simple, but many of us simply don’t do it because we think we are being selfish or because we believe our own needs are not important. They are. It is not selfish to care about yourself. Compassion means showing concern for your own feelings as well as for others. Treat yourself the way you would treat your children or your best friend, with gentleness, concern and caring.

 2. Maintain your boundaries. Write a list of the things that you need emotionally. These are things that are important to you and upset you or hurt your feelings when they are ignored or violated. They could include being listened to, sympathy when you’re hurt, celebrated when you succeed, love and tenderness without asking for it, being cared for and knowing you can rely on someone. Whatever is important to you is important. And when someone ignores what’s important to you or crosses your boundary, you’ll know because it hurts. Don’t ignore that. Your feelings are there to tell you what’s right and what’s wrong.

Tell people what your boundaries are and what you will and will not tolerate. If they apologise, you can forgive them. If they do not apologise or continue to ignore your boundaries and your needs, you need to create consequences. For example, if you tell your partner that you need him to listen to you and acknowledge your feelings when you talk about something and he continually ignores you or tells you to get over it, you should respond with appropriate action, such as finding someone else to confide in. You may also need to reconsider the relationship. Relationships are meant to be a two-way street and you should be getting your needs for love, acceptance and respect met as much as the other person. Being assertive and taking action to get your own needs met will build your self-esteem because it will reinforce the belief, in yourself and others, that you deserve to be loved and cherished.

3. Do what you need to do to be you. First, figure out what makes you feel good. It doesn’t matter what it is, but become aware of how you feel when you do things. Do you feel exhausted at work, but exhilarated when you’re in the garden? Do you feel joyful reading to your children? Fulfilled when you are writing poetry or volunteering? Find out what makes you feel good and do it, as often as you can. Feeling good is all the permission you need to do what you love to do. And the more you do those things, the happier you will be. If it means you have to give up something else, so be it. Perhaps you need to spend more time on your own or schedule an hour every weekend to visit an art gallery to recharge your batteries. Maybe you need to save up some money to buy paints and brushes or you have to ask your family to look after themselves for a few hours while you take a stress-relieving walk. Perhaps you need to join a club so that you can meet like-minded people who inspire you. Do what you need to do to be you and don’t let anyone blame you, criticise you or try to talk you out of it because they think you are being selfish, silly, crazy or delusional. Ignore them. You will feel better, you will be better able to really be there for others and you will like yourself more. You may even love yourself.

All of these things will help you to develop a sense of accomplishment, a sense of pride in what you are doing and who you are and a realisation that you are a worthy, talented, capable, loveable person who deserves to be loved. And the most important person to believe that is you.


Ward, Deborah. “How to Love Yourself.” Psychology Today

Important!

This diagram is imperative in understanding the dynamics of depression & suicidal thoughts. Please share, perchance someone at the end of their wits might find this helpful. It’s been of tremendous help to me!

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