Validation is rizq
Love is rizq
Self-awareness is rizq
Courage is rizq
Success is rizq
Stability is rizq
Confidence is rizq
The key to receiving is to realize that everything in existence is His, and whatever He grants you no one can hold back. All the hearts are between His fingers, and He holds everyone by their foreheads. He can make your worst enemy subservient to you. Therefore, do not attribute that divine power to others or give yourself undue importance in that somehow you’re innately undeserving. What that would entail is that Allaah created you with a fixed burden and that’s simply not His M.O. Whatever shortcomings we have is only to act as catalyst for growth. Internalizing things based on how others mistreated you is to deface your soul.
If anything, you experience unloving people to know that that’s wrong because it offends the soul. Allaah is showing you through contrast in order for you to learn.
The channel to receiving all you need is to be grateful. Gratitude is an antidote to resentment, arrogance, entitlement, shame. It connotes an expectation of love and anticipation of good. It’s a recognition of the divine gifts you pine for.
If you experience a lack, or mistreatment or emotional pain, it’s not because there’s something wrong with you. It’s not because you haven’t done enough to earn love because you had your rizq assigned before you were born. Your only purpose is to find and embody enlightenment, which is ibaadah of Allaah. He wants you to feel loved, to feel significant, to feel empowered, to feel free, to feel able because that’s what He created you for! He didn’t create you to be stagnant. He created you to discover and share your gifts, in gratitude for receiving them. The taxation for blessings is to share them. And He wishes ease for us, not hardship.
Whatever we feel that constricts our hearts or burdens us is a sign that we’re not aligned with our truth. We’re living out the scripts of those who can’t give us what we need or deprive us. People just dole out credits on divine gifts, claiming that if you sign the dotted line you’d receive validation but it’s a scam. You know that. You know that people only want to control and overpower and that’s why they seduce you with validation and love.
Whatever you experience on the outside is only meant to draw attention to the places within you that need remedying. It’s a call to purify your soul and remove the blocks. Don’t add fuel to the fire by internalizing that lesson as further proof of your doom of misery and unlovability.
فَتَقَبَّلَهَا رَبُّهَا بِقَبُولٍ حَسَنٍ وَأَنْبَتَهَا نَبَاتًا حَسَنًا وَكَفَّلَهَا زَكَرِيَّا كُلَّمَا دَخَلَ عَلَيْهَا زَكَرِيَّا الْمِحْرَابَ وَجَدَعِنْدَهَا رِزْقًا قَالَ يَا مَرْيَمُ أَنَّىٰ لَكِ هَٰذَا قَالَتْ هُوَ مِنْ عِنْدِ اللَّهِ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَرْزُقُ مَنْ يَشَاءُ بِغَيْرِ حِسَابٍ
So her Lord accepted her with goodly acceptance. He made her grow in a good manner and put her under the care of Zakariya. Every time he entered Al-Mihrab to (visit) her , he found her supplied with sustenance. He said: “O Maryam (Mary)! From where have you got this?” She said, “This is from Allaah.” Verily, Allaah Provides sustenance to whom He wills, without limit.”
(Aali Imran 3:37)
لِيَجْزِيَهُمُ اللَّهُ أَحْسَنَ مَا عَمِلُوا وَيَزِيدَهُمْ مِنْ فَضْلِهِ وَاللَّهُ يَرْزُقُ مَنْ يَشَاءُ بِغَيْرِ حِسَابٍ
That Allaah may reward them according to the best of their deeds, and add even more for them out of His Grace. And Allaah Provides without measure to whom He wills.
قُلْ إِنَّ رَبِّي يَبْسُطُ الرِّزْقَ لِمَن يَشَاءُ مِنْ عِبَادِهِ وَيَقْدِرُ لَهُ وَمَا أَنفَقْتُم مِّن شَيْءٍ فَهُوَ يُخْلِفُهُ وَهُوَ خَيْرُ الرَّازِقِينَ
Say: “Truly, my Lord enlarges the provision for whom He wills of His slaves, and (also) restricts (it) for him, and whatsoever you spend of anything (in Allaah’s Cause), He will replace it. And He is the Best of Providers.”