A man’s efforts to have you in his life stems from the vision he holds of you and your relationship, and that’s not something you can dictate or implant in him. You can’t make him accept what your vision is because that’s a mental concept, and for a bond to last it has to be heart-based. A connection forged from intellectual ideals and projections can’t surrender to love.
The right guy would be the one who Allaah inspires with a vision of a dynamic that supports and protects your highest good and potential. You can’t know what it is, nor can he. It’s truly a divine union and it’s something you’ll recognize when it happens. It’s something you’ll feel holistically in ways you never were aware of.
وَأَلَّفَ بَيْنَ قُلُوبِهِمْ لَوْ أَنفَقْتَ مَا فِى ٱلْأَرْضِ جَمِيعًا مَّآ أَلَّفْتَ بَيْنَ قُلُوبِهِمْ وَلَٰكِنَّ ٱللَّهَ أَلَّفَ بَيْنَهُمْ إِنَّهُۥ عَزِيزٌ حَكِيمٌ
And He has united their hearts. If you had spent all that is in the earth, you could not have united their hearts, but Allah has united them. Certainly He is All-Mighty, All-Wise.
You never had the might, wisdom or wherewithal to create a bond that will withstand time and turbulence. Only Allaah can, and to have it you have to surrender to that fact and not resist it by thinking you have control over such a complex destiny.