I’ve learnt to equate my vulnerabilities, weaknesses, genuine neediness with being unlovable. I’ve learnt that these are aspects of me that should never even exist to begin with and I have to up my ante to make up for these ‘flaws’.
Secondhand toxicity, environmental emotional dysfunction, permeates the pure psyches of children. Instead of love, we take in fear through osmosis. The fact that it’s handed down unconsciously makes it that much more difficult to detect that what we’re wrestling with shouldn’t be to begin with.