Outcomes and external events are vessels, and what defines the experience is the content. People seek out the vessels when in fact they desire the content. And though the content can be found in a certain vessel, a certain form, it’s not identified with or limited to it.
The most beautiful and invigorating experiences can only come when you’re centered in your being (soul content) and not your doing ( your vessel). The most sublime content is divine and the divine doesn’t enter a self-righteous or self-hating vessel.