Allaah will change the situation when we change how we feel. Meaning, when we go into the conflicting and dissenting feelings that are the very source code, the microcosm of the external situation we grapple with, that’s when Allaah will dissolve and transmute the external circumstances that reflect the strife, the deception, the conflict, the disconnection, the harshness, the fickleness within the psyche of the observer.
But in our fast-paced, consumerist, status-driven age we’ve inverted that reality by saying change the situation to change how you feel.
Don’t like your body? Don’t go inwards to find out why you hold hatred for yourself. Just diet or get surgery.
Don’t like your relationship? Don’t go inwards to find out what this person brings up in you. Just find someone else who makes you feel better.
Don’t like your gender? Don’t explore the deeper meaning and root of your existential dissonance.Act like the gender you wish you were born as.
لَهُ مُعَقِّبَاتٌ مِّن بَيْنِ يَدَيْهِ وَمِنْ خَلْفِهِ يَحْفَظُونَهُ مِنْ أَمْرِ اللَّهِ إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَا يُغَيِّرُ مَا بِقَوْمٍ حَتَّىٰ يُغَيِّرُوا مَا بِأَنفُسِهِمْ وَإِذَا أَرَادَ اللَّهُ بِقَوْمٍ سُوءًا فَلَا مَرَدَّ لَهُ وَمَا لَهُم مِّن دُونِهِ مِن وَالٍ
For each (person), there are angels in succession, before and behind him. They guard him by the Command of Allaah. Verily! Allaah will not change the good condition of a people as long as they do not change their state of goodness themselves. But when Allaah wills a people’s punishment, there can be no turning back of it, and they will find besides Him no protector.
Meaning, if you want good, focus on cultivating the good in yourself. If your situation is bad, return to establishing the good you lost sight of within. Either way, changing the external is a moot point because it’s only changed by divine decree. And you have to be aligned and be a match for that decree, because Allaah in His wisdom won’t place good in the hands of those who don’t know how to handle it.