As women, we have an extraordinary capability to endure bullshit, especially our own. And we need to see that. We need to see our own internal power struggle and corruption, not in the context of external power structures, but in terms of the choices we make. We continue to adhere to realities that aren’t aligned with our personal resonance, and completely discount our innate power and ability to stand in our truth, regardless of what people say, just like Maryam calayhassalaam. We continue to engage in disempowering mindsets like projecting our worth and strength on men we perceive as better able to do for us what we feel we can’t. This is the bizarre irony; in the one realm where we really do have an advantage and the upper hand, we sit back and wait to receive from men as a token of our worth.
Why? Because as women, we’ve agreed to extract our worth from how people validate and react to us. Whether we admit it or not, we crave approval because that’s the only recognition we can take without feeling overwhelmed by guilt and shame. This is also because we’ve placed our locus of control externally that slyly feeds a victim mentality of us doing everything right but never getting acknowledged for it. Well duh. We stray from our truths for fear of alienating people, and then we’re surprised when reality reflects back to us our inauthenticity?
Society is fucked up, yes,but a big part of the reason is because of us. Because we continue to seek redemption and approval in a cesspool when women have the sacred role to safeguard and rejuvenate the moral and spiritual fabric of society. We’ve become morally decadent, and that’s not in regards to men. I’m talking about our connection to the divine ; we’ve made men into our idols and what we gauge life by, and they in turn gave us conditional acceptance. So we cut ourselves down and up and burnt ourselves out to attain those conditions. But we can’t complain that men don’t give us unconditional acceptance, that we have to jump through these hoops that give us body dysmorphia and eating disorders, when we agreed to it. Then on top of that, we’ve misunderstood what empowerment and liberation means. It does not mean that others treat us right and well. It’s deeper and primordial and divine. No one can take away the inherent worth we were created with. I repeat : no man can take away the worth and value that has been divinely assigned to us.
The problem is that we’ve lost contact with that because we’ve evaded our roots. We’ve fled our depths, our spiritual wombs. We’ve flocked to the fruits that are popular for a season or two, only to shrivel and die in the winter cold. And at once we’re flung back into the blank existential canvas we escaped. We’re faced with the culmination of centuries worth of distorted feminine energies. You see patriarchy didn’t arise in a vacuum. It arose because we became corrupted and intoxicated with the power we hold when we’re balanced. So we got toppled, and patriarchy took over. And though it seems like we were dissenting victims, we adjusted to the new realities and made excuses for it. It’s easier to pin a 5 year old girl down for fgm than go up against the community you rely on for your identity. Between the truth and conformity, you’ll take conformity any day. And that’s a part we sweep away when we talk about systematic inequalities. But that is something that will corrode us from within, and we won’t have anyone or anything on the outside to pin it on.
So, in these days of upheaval, we must find our way back by recalibrating ourselves with the divine feminine energy. This, by balancing the masculine and feminine energy that exist in both genders; this is a joint effort of ending the dualities. No one is exempt from this flood that is upon us, and we must build an ark of transcendence.
Trust me when I say, there’s nothing more empowering for young girls to learn than unconditional self-acceptance. And that can only come about by us embodying the divine feminine template. By not viewing ourselves in the context of the status quo, or in the context of people’s approval. We have to go outside the comfort zone, like Maryam was ordered when she was due to give birth. And when she came back to the city, she was told to not be defensive or try to explain herself to people. Allaah vindicated her, protected her in ways He wouldn’t have had she not made space for that by trusting the truth. She didn’t hold any doubts about the truth of what had happened, and she left those whose minds and hearts were clouded and swayed by doubts and illusions to Allaah. Those who insisted on obscuring and warping the truth about Maryam and her son, Ciisa calayhimasallaam were destroyed for their arrogance and relentless rejection of the truth.
So you need not worry about others not getting it or others erasing your truth because you’re backed by cosmic legions dispatched by Allaah.
فَبِمَا نَقْضِهِم مِّيثَاقَهُمْ لَعَنَّاهُمْ وَجَعَلْنَا قُلُوبَهُمْ قَاسِيَةً يُحَرِّفُونَ الْكَلِمَ عَن مَّوَاضِعِهِ وَنَسُوا حَظًّا مِّمَّا ذُكِّرُوا بِهِ وَلَا تَزَالُ تَطَّلِعُ عَلَىٰ خَائِنَةٍ مِّنْهُمْ إِلَّا قَلِيلًا مِّنْهُمْ فَاعْفُ عَنْهُمْ وَاصْفَحْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِينَ
So because of their breach of their covenant, We cursed them, and made their hearts grow hard. They change the words from their (right) places and have abandoned a good part of the Message that was sent to them. And you will not cease to discover deceit in them, except a few of them. But forgive them, and overlook (their misdeeds). Verily, Allaah loves the gooddoers.