The Somali term ‘calaf raadis’ ¹ literally means one who seeks their destiny. Specifically, one seeking their soulmate.
So it has me thinking: How are you going to seek something that is your destiny? How do you decide who is or isn’t a soulmate? If you find her/him and you run away, will they follow you? If not, how can you outrun your destiny? And is destiny deterministic or is it decided by your outlook on life?
I mean, YOU are the seeker right? So what you’re seeking is a certain criteria by which you filter what you encounter? Criteria based on what you *don’t* want, what you secretly crave, whatever will act as a comfort zone.
So, doesn’t that mean that your calaf is … yourself? That whatever you are is a magnet drawing unto itself things of its nature? Like how life falls into place when everything seems to fall apart. How things mysteriously harmonize when you let go of control. How discovering yourself has little to do with piecing together clues and more to do with peeling away layers.
So… shouldn’t the prospect be to remove everything that obscures the path between you and your calaf/soulmate? The path being your heart… Would the one you’re seeking recognize YOU? Would you be ready to accommodate for them, or would you cut them down to fit you? How can you find a soulmate when you keep rejecting and repelling your own soul?
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
¹ ‘c’, in Somali is pronounced like ع in Arabic, which can pass for ‘a’ in English. So: calaf=alaf