Essence of life lies nestled in seeds buried in the dirt of the subconscious, and whose outer coats consist of the ego. The only way to get to the true sense of aliveness is to dig through the dark and dirty realms outside the ego, beyond the confines of comfort zones. Rawness, vulnerability, letting go, suffering, rejection, fear. These are the guides you’ll meet on the way there because before you can get the essence, you must grow into the self-actualized individual you were created to be.
That, or you can remain suspended in an embryonic state of wishes and almosts, and die having lived a vestige of a life.