Some people see children being abused or mistreated and they hesitate protecting the child by saying that ‘ a mother knows her child best’ ‘ I don’t want to get in between a mother and her child’ or ‘ maybe the mother is under a lot of stress’
A child is not property!! You expect such an attitude from someone mishandling their car or phone or laptop and you bite your tongue by telling yourself it’s their stuff,their money, and if they want to destroy them then that’s their prerogative I guess.
A child is not bought or owned. A child is a complete and worthy human being who is in the vulnerable position of being defenseless against any mistreatment.
Being a parent doesn’t turn you into an infallible person. A shitty woman becomes a shitty mother 9 months later. A pregnancy does not change a person. It only brings out the true colours of a person. That’s why I find women who strive to be good mothers to be superwomen. Seriously, no one can understand how taxing it is to have a child depend on one 24/7 – and even more so with more kids one has.
However, that added stress brings out the demons in malicious people. It doesn’t turn them into supermoms or superdads. It turns them into psychotic abusive twisted fucks. You hear of children being tortured,starved,emotionally abused, sexually abused, murdered by their own parents. And those cases are only the most extreme that make it to the news. Imagine how many other fly under the radar. Or how many years a child is abused and battered before it becomes known. Usually because someone has the humanity to raise alarm.
The apologetic stance we have in the Somali culture is appalling. People would rather watch a mother clearly abuse her kids because of their spinelessness and then have the audacity to slap a moral label to their cowardice by saying oh a mother loves her kids the most. GTFO!!!
A mother has such privilege IF she fulfills her immense responsibilities toward her kids. Allaah didn’t give her such a privilege for nothing. It’s to encourage a positive feedback loop between children and mothers so as to assuage for the mothers difficult task that goes on for 15+ years.
But if she fails in her responsibilities, if she arrogantly thinks that an innocent and defenseless child is her accessory, her punching bag for whenever she’s stressed, then that is the worst kind of oppression for which she will be brought to account!! Allaah forbade oppression from Himself, then what of others! A woman went to hell because she starved a cat, then what of an innocent human being??!
I’d rather the CPS take away that child than for me to silently watch from the sidelines because I erroneously believe that an abusive mother is better than non-muslim foster parents. tf? Allaah is the Guider. A child can be misguided under the watching eyes of strict parents. Have you forgotten about prophet Nuh’s son?
And have you forgotten about the fact that Musa alayhis salaam has Pharaoh as a foster parent??! The very tyrant his mother wanted to save her son from when she threw Musa in the river in his cot.
A child who is alive and well is better off than a dead child, or a child who’s been afflicted with irreversible emotional trauma.
WALAHI! If I see a child in distress, be it on a bus or a mosque, I will go HAM on the mother and I don’t give a flying fuck about how pissed she gets. She has the verbal arsenal to cuss me til Kingdom comes, and she has the strength to beat me up (or try) but that child can’t do neither. A mother might yell at a rowdy child or snap and slap the kid, that’s understandable. But to flat-out beat the child senseless or be so disgustingly verbally abusive?
Would you pass a man beating his wife in the street by saying that you don’t know what she did?
Oppression is oppression. Somalis, I’m sick and tired of this abuse pandering and passivity!! Speak up against the injustices that go on around you before Allaah renders you mute and takes away your intellect! Speak up even if you’re certain that you would be ostracized. Speak even if you’re so scared that you feel as if the bermuda triangle is in the pit of your stomach.
If you witness injustice, know that Allaah put you in that position to test your courage and empathy.
But then again. What do I expect of a people who are blind to the injustices in their own souls. A people who’ve perfected the art of pretence and hypocrisy. A people who cry crocodile tears at the funerals of people they’ve killed, who pledge false dollars to charity just to become known as generous. A people who polish a red apple that is all rotten inside, crawling with maggots. A people who are only concerned with injustice when it floods their facebook newsfeeds, only angered when qabyaalad comes to their backyard, only saddened when their needs aren’t met.
I’ve never been this harsh but Somalis, we’re scum ! We let fear of the truth rob us of our dignity, peace, country, dreams. For fear of being separated from the herd, we’ve sold our souls to the devil at a wholesale price and allowed us to be lulled into a false sense of security. Everywhere around us the false construct we’ve clung to for the past two decades is falling apart, but we got our dhaqan right? Single mothers are oppressed everywhere, but maa shaa Allaah we are a generous lot right? Sheikhs are twisting the truth to further their own causes and use the deen to benefit themselves – but allaahumma baarik we are a people who love the Qur’aan so much, right? Politicians buy themselves beach houses in Malibu with the aid money for internally displaced persons and school children and are mostly a womanizing bunch, but alhamdulillaah we have managed to keep afloat relatively well considering the fact that we’ve been without effective government since 1991. We are a people who are the biggest conartists this world has seen and won’t miss a heartbeat in saying that our kids are born out of wedlock to claim a few extra hundred bucks, but tabarakAllaah we are quick to put ‘loose’ women in their places before they corrupt our clean culture.
Walahi I will deconstruct this systematic falsehood and expose every alley and corner that we hide our feeble and coward selves, until my last breath. I don’t get angry often but when I do, I become the Hulk. And you know what’s so dangerous about me, and this pledge I just took? I’m included in it. I’m my own biggest opposition when it comes to calling myself out on BS. I don’t have any inhibitions, nothing I would stop for, nothing to hide. I’m ready to put myself in harms way just to wake us up from this coma, because I’d rather die in my truth than live in falsehood. I’d rather embarrass myself, stumble, commit the worst social gauffes that’d blackball me from every Somali community on Allaah’s green eath – than to look on as hyenas and vultures are ripping our somalinimo to shreds.
And oh. If you’ve come this far in reading and you resonate, don’t share this. I know what you’re thinking. You feel that anger, the frustration, and you want to hide behind my post and feel as if you’ve done something. You’ll share and after a day or two it’s back to normal. No way Jose! Read this and reflect. Lock this away in your mind. Do.Not.Share. I’m sick and tired of social clicktivism and victim mentality and scapegoating. We are all in this shit together. Step down from your high horse. We’re all either perpetrators or tacit supporters. There’s a third category, but you won’t hear much about that one. It’s ugly and menial and no fun. Burning in the fire of the truth until nothing remains of facades and hypocricy in one’s heart. A slow and agonizing process of focusing on changing oneself before trying to change the world.
وَاتَّقُوا فِتْنَةً لَّا تُصِيبَنَّ الَّذِينَ ظَلَمُوا مِنكُمْ خَاصَّةً ۖ وَاعْلَمُوا أَنَّ الله شَدِيدُ الْعِقَابِ
“And fear the Fitnah (affliction and trial, etc.) which affects not in particular (only) those of you who do wrong (but it may afflict all the good and the bad people), and know that Allâh is Severe in punishment.”